Licensed Professional Counselor
EMDRIA North Texas Regional Coordinator
Approved Consultant in EMDR
Certified Therapist in EMDR
What I do that people find helpful…
As an EMDR therapist, I help people explore and identify their thought patterns that constantly run in background that cause conflict and discomfort. These thoughts or “neural patterns”, which are formed over a lifetime, cause anxiety and stress (PTSD) and are disruptive regular living. As these emotional patterns are identified, we then use EMDR processing to get resolve them. Sometimes this can be accomplished in a few sessions, but most often it takes longer.
I teach people the skill of tuning into their “felt-sense”, staying with their emotions, and learning to regulate their feelings and emotions from that place. This is a great way to live in the present moment, responding in “real-time” to what is currently happening as opposed to reacting to a contrived reality constructed in the mind and being played out in “real-life.”
For people who want to go deeper, I encourage them to buy, read and do, The Presence Process by Michael Brown. We can then use that as a way to guide our sessions and the work we do.
I help people see life from a different perspective. After all, you can’t use the thinking you used to get into your current discomfort, to get you out of it.
A big part of life, that is often overlooked, is learning to tolerate your own discomfort to your internal experience. In other words, when we feel bad we don’t want to feel bad – we can’t just be with the ‘badness’ that we feel. Therefore, if the negative emotional charge that comes from within is too strong to tolerate then we use EMDR processing to help desensitize the bad feeling. On your own, you can meditate or sit in silence. It is also very helpful to use CDs from Bliss Music and/or from David Grand’s Biolateral website.
A lot of clients come in having worked with other therapists. A lot of times they have had good experiences, which is why they’re coming in for more. Sometimes, they’ve had bad experiences so they left, but things in their life still haven’t worked out, which is why they’re coming in for more.
For those that didn’t have good experienes, I hear two complaints. One is, “All the therapist did was nod their head and didn’t say anything.” The other is that the therapist, “Talked too much. That they didn’t really listen or understand the problem.”
Either way, that’s fine because with EMDR therapy, we’ll pull all of your other therapy experiences together, what worked and what didn’t. You’ll get resolution in a different way, so that what was good will be even better and what wasn’t good will become resolved and integrated.
On advice giving…
If you want my advice on anything, just ask. Here it is: “Do it.” Or, “Don’t do it.” It doesn’t matter. The important part is to do whatever you do as consciously as possible and feel the consequences of whatever it is you chose to do.
Other holistic therapies…
My experience with acupuncture has been very good.
Psychotropic medications, such as anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medications, and sleeping medications are a mixed bag. Most people I talk with, have tried them but didn’t like them or have good results; but some do. In my opinion, they’re worth a try and if they work for you then stick with it, if not then learn to regulate your emotions without them.
The difference between EMDR and medications is that EMDR helps resolve the underlying bio-neurological issue, whereas the psychotropic medications do not, nor do they claim to.
Bikram, (hot-yoga) is amazing. Do it!
Jordan has been a licensed counselor for 15 years and has specialized in EMDR since Feb, 2005.