Do Neurons Know Your Story?

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Do neurons know there’s a world out there?
Do they know you had a car crash, or that you’re sitting in therapy right now?

Of course not. Neurons don’t know anything, they don’t even know ‘you.’ They fire, link, and form networks. That’s all.

But we often talk about the brain as if it does: “My brain just won’t shut off.” “My body won’t let me relax.” That’s anthropomorphism—projecting human qualities onto biology.

What Neurons Actually Do

Neurons don’t know stories, trauma, or therapy. They respond to energy—fear, shame, delight, terror. Those surges cause neurons to fire and connect. When the charge is strong enough, the network that forms becomes frozen, even isolated. EMDR calls these stuck imprints “target nodes.”

What we call remembering is really the conscious awareness of neurons firing in a familiar pattern at a certain frequency. The person becomes aware of what the brain has already enlivened. The neurons aren’t holding the memory as a story—they’re simply a string of neurons lit up by a charge.

This also explains why EMDR can sometimes feel intense. Bilateral stimulation can activate the target nodes, cross network boundaries, create new patterns, and link in isolated information. When that happens, strong emotions may surge without context. It’s not resistance—it’s simply the biology of an isolated circuit coming to awareness and releasing its energy.

A Different Kind of Compassion

When we see neurons this way, something shifts. If neurons aren’t bad or broken—if they’re just firing habitually—then maybe I’m not broken either.

It’s a reframe into self-compassion and non-judgment: “It’s not me, it’s my neural networks.” The brain is simply doing what brains do—responding to activation, adjusting, and organizing. And with support, those same networks can change.

Instead of blame, there’s space for fierce curiosity. Instead of shame, there’s relief.

How EMDR Changes the Story

EMDR doesn’t “teach” neurons a new narrative. They don’t learn like we do. What EMDR does is help defuse the charge in the circuitry, so the network can re-link to broader pathways. As the charge drains, emotions settle. The brain links to new information and perspectives as unknown neural pathways become available.

Take a car crash, for example. At first, the memory may feel like nothing but the collision, the sirens, the ambulance ride. The body stays flooded with fear and agitation, even when the crash is long past.

But with EMDR, bilateral stimulation reduces that intensity. As the charge lowers, other aspects of the memory emerge and become accessible: people who came to help, voices that offered comfort, the recognition—deep down—that the event is over. This is true for complex trauma as well.

The autobiographical meaning of the experience changes—energetically, both in the realm of thinking and feeling. The memory is no longer a prison. It becomes part of a wider, integrated story.

The Nondual View

And here’s where this bridges into nondual wisdom.

If neurons don’t know your story, then who does?
If the brain doesn’t carry your identity, then what does?

From the nondual perspective, neurons are activity within Awareness. They fire, link, and imprint, but they don’t know why. Awareness is what knows. It is the field in which brain activity, stories, and wholeness arise.

When we stop anthropomorphizing neurons, we stop identifying ourselves with them. And in that space, something deeper opens: I am not my neurons. I am not my trauma. I am the Awareness itself, in which neurons fire, memories appear, wholeness grows, and life happens.

Closing

So, do neurons know your story? No. They just fire and link. But through EMDR, those links can shift, the charge can drain, and new perspectives can emerge.

And beyond the neurons—beyond even the story—what remains is what has always been there: Awareness.

Jordan Shafer

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Dr. Amanda Martin, LMFT-S, LPC, BCN

Amanda Martin holds a PhD in Family Therapy and is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor, and EMDRIA Approved Consultant. With over 14 years of experience, she specializes in trauma therapy for individuals and families in residential and outpatient settings. Amanda also provides supervision for EMDR certification, EMDR consultants-in-training, and LMFT-Associates. Her mission is to help people find a healthy, joyful, and fulfilling path in life. Her warm, supportive, and interactive counseling style incorporates Symbolic Experiential Therapy, Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, HeartMath, Animal-Assisted Therapy, Neurofeedback, and Collaborative Problem Solving.

Dr. Jose Carbajal, LCSW

Dr. Jose Carbajal, a U.S. Army veteran, earned his bachelor’s and master’s degrees in social work and a master’s in theological studies from Baylor University, and a Ph.D. in Social Work from the University of Texas at Arlington. With over 15 years of clinical experience and extensive teaching experience, Jose specializes in trauma, sexual abuse recovery, domestic violence, and substance abuse. His research focuses on trauma interventions, neuroscience, and faith. He is EMDR Certified, an Approved Consultant, and an EMDRIA Approved Trainer, with numerous publications and professional presentations to his name.

Dr. Amber Quaranta-Leech, LPC-S

Amber holds a PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision from Regent University. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor in both Texas and Oklahoma and holds Supervisor credential for Texas. Amber is an EMDRIA consultant and trainer. She has over a decade of experience in the trauma field in work with uniformed services, domestic violence, childhood trauma and abuse, and recent mass trauma events. Amber provides consultation for EMDRIA certification, for consultants-in-training, and supervision for LPC-Associates. Amber continues to research the benefits of EMDR therapy with a variety of populations. Her goal is to help build strong clinicians who are well versed in trauma interventions to better support their clients. Amber sees a limited number of clients with a focus on trauma work, she is also a Certified Career Counselor and Certified through EAGALA to provide equine-assisted therapy. 

Dr. Amber Quaranta-Leech, LPC-S

Amber holds a PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision from Regent University. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor in both Texas and Oklahoma and holds Supervisor credential for Texas. Amber is an EMDRIA consultant and trainer. She has over a decade of experience in the trauma field in work with uniformed services, domestic violence, childhood trauma and abuse, and recent mass trauma events. Amber provides consultation for EMDRIA certification, for consultants-in-training, and supervision for LPC-Associates. Amber continues to research the benefits of EMDR therapy with a variety of populations. Her goal is to help build strong clinicians who are well versed in trauma interventions to better support their clients. Amber sees a limited number of clients with a focus on trauma work, she is also a Certified Career Counselor and Certified through EAGALA to provide equine-assisted therapy. 

Dr. Jose Carbajal, LCSW

Dr. Jose Carbajal, a U.S. Army veteran, earned his bachelor’s and master’s degrees in social work and a master’s in theological studies from Baylor University, and a Ph.D. in Social Work from the University of Texas at Arlington. With over 15 years of clinical experience and extensive teaching experience, Jose specializes in trauma, sexual abuse recovery, domestic violence, and substance abuse. His research focuses on trauma interventions, neuroscience, and faith. He is EMDR Certified, an Approved Consultant, and an EMDRIA Approved Trainer, with numerous publications and professional presentations to his name.

Dr. Amanda Martin, LMFT-S, LPC, BCN

Amanda Martin holds a PhD in Family Therapy and is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor, and EMDRIA Approved Consultant. With over 14 years of experience, she specializes in trauma therapy for individuals and families in residential and outpatient settings. Amanda also provides supervision for EMDR certification, EMDR consultants-in-training, and LMFT-Associates. Her mission is to help people find a healthy, joyful, and fulfilling path in life. Her warm, supportive, and interactive counseling style incorporates Symbolic Experiential Therapy, Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, HeartMath, Animal-Assisted Therapy, Neurofeedback, and Collaborative Problem Solving.